1 Timothy 5:1-2 - Never speak sharply to an
older man, but plead with him respectfully just as though he were your own
father. Talk to the younger men as you would to much-loved brothers. Treat
the older women as mothers, and the girls as your sisters, thinking only
pure thoughts about them.
Paul took the time to remind Timothy that it was very
important to treat all people with respect.
Aged or young …man or woman…everyone was to be considered as a part of a
much-loved family. All people deserve
the very gentlest and kind words we can find in our Christ controlled heart.
Hard words to follow in our world of broken families…abused
children… and violently raised people….especially if we lose sight of the power
of Christ to control every word we say. It’s hard to respect someone who took
drugs or drank during their pregnancy…knowing the damage it would do to their
child. It’s hard to listen to the harsh conversations of some families in pubic
stores. I have shaken my head and
whispered more prayers than I can count when I encounter some of these
situations that I know I have no control over…and no business involving myself
in that moment.
I know from experience that when we engage in the dialogue…and
use the same harsh words that are thrown at us…it teaches those around us the
opposite of Christ’s love. I know the damage I did to my children when they would
listen to some of the word fights I would have with my first husband. Nobody won those fights…except satan. He succeeded in separating me just far enough
from Christ that I never looked to Him to help me control my words. The end
result was another divorce statistic…another damaged family that would search a
long time for enough answers to learn to forgive and move past the pain it
caused all of us.
It is Christ that has taught me to control my first impulse
to shout back …or judge those around me. It has taken seeing the pain it causes
personally to teach me to let God control my tongue…to help me form loving
words that kindly point out an issue….without degrading the person I need to
confront. It is never okay to degrade….ridicule….or correct someone with harsh
words…no matter what wrong we feel they have committed.
Father…thank you for the reminder that you should always be in
control of my words. Forgive me for the times that I let anger….bitterness…or injustice
trick me into using harsh words that tore down the situation even more. Help me to always stop and whisper a prayer
to you that helps me know how to handle each situation you allow to cross my
path…so that I will always show resect…and
model your love and mercy to others.
Amen.